How to Find out What Dating Sites your Husband is On
Are you feeling that your husband is using one or more dating sites behind your back? Or maybe you suspect your man is hiding profiles on different hookup apps? So, in this guide, I'll help you uncover the truth and find the dating sites that your spouse is on and even get his photos, account details, and more when available.
But first, I recommend taking the time to think about any trust issues in your relationship. There is no reason for a man to use dating websites secretly when married. So, even if your partner is on these apps, talk to him and see what's on his mind.
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How to tell if he's using dating apps?
We're in 2025, and the Internet is full of dating networks and millions of users in the US. So, searching for a specific person may not be as easy as it looks like. There are private accounts and hidden details that these sites keep for their members only. As a result, search engines like Google may not find their information or profile URLs. However, I tested some tricks and tactics to help you uncover the truth.
Infidelity Statistics: The Digital Landscape
First, try the Dating Profile Search site; it's a trusted tool that allows users to search for dating accounts by name, username, email, or even a cell phone number. I tried the tool, and it works, but don't expect it to cover all the usernames you search for, as that's not realistic. However, it's the best free site to search for your partner's hidden dating accounts, like Tinder and other apps. Now, let's see the other options.
People search tools
There are some tools and resources that are available to help you determine if your husband is on dating sites. So, you can search for his hidden accounts by name, email address, or phone number. Hence, if that makes no difference, then, try the search by home address. That could bring you most of the accounts on different platforms like Badoo, POF, or others.
When you start your online investigation of someone's secret accounts, make sure you collect as many details as possible. Your man could be using fake usernames and photos of someone else on dating networks. In addition, there are many tools that people can use to edit their pictures and make them look like someone else completely.
Some good search options:
BV: This tool can help you search for any possible dating account or social profile quickly. Also, it can provide you with contact numbers, and emails, and that depends on many factors, such as the availability of the data and the type of search you choose. Personally, I recommend their search by the name option, as it can show more details than other solutions. So, start by typing your partner's first and last name, then, click on the green "SEARCH" button.
That's it, you don't have to choose the city or the state like the case with other online people search engine tools. Even more, this is one of the best mobile-optimized search tools you can find in the US.
NumberGuru: If you'd like to use a great reverse phone number lookup service to search for dating accounts, this will be the best option. It's a trusted search platform that you can use to find possible social profiles, accounts on dating apps, and more when available.
Spokeo: This is a tool that works like a background search platform. So, it finds people's information, including their names, cell phone numbers, and social profiles, in one place. But also, that may include accounts on dating sites that anyone hides. So, give it a try, type the name, and see what comes up as search results.
🔥 Pro Tip: Cross-Pillar Searching
If you find an email address through any people search tool, immediately use it in a reverse email lookup to check for hidden profiles on other sites (like finding if the email is linked to a private social media profile).
Check his online accounts
If you want to tell if your husband is using dating sites, start with this powerful search method. Many search tools have a built-in system that crawls the web for different purposes, including finding dating profiles. So, when these tools find usernames or pages on someone's name, they organize that data and save it. But this works only in the US. So if you're in another place in the world, try Google or the other search techniques in this guide.
These options are similar to the above ones but with specific algorithms. So, for example, if you want to see if your spouse is on Tinder, just type his phone number or email in the search field of Social Catfish. Next, see if there is any mention of the Tinder website. Do the same with other sites that you suspect your husband is using secretly, but this time with his photo as Social Catfish can help you with that. It can extract the data behind a picture and provide you with the URL of the dating or social media profile in a few minutes.
Keep in mind that you need to have an idea about the most popular dating apps that people use. That includes Bumble, Hinge, eHarmony, Match.com and Zoosk. But also, there are so many new platforms that are specific to dating communities and countries.
Search by image
Dating sites rely on good photos so that users can rank their profiles well. For that reason, members of these sites try to have a good photo of themselves, and you can take advantage of that by trying a reverse photo search engine like Social Catfish. It can help you discover what pages your man's photos appear on, and what sites have his name.
Also, you can try Google Images and TinEye. These tools have powerful reverse image lookups that you can use for free. If the picture you upload appears somewhere on the Internet, you'll get the location with the site name and direct URL to view the profile details. For more advanced methods, see our guide on finding people on social media with picture.
This method works better for publicly accessible dating sites like Tinder. That's because you can easily search for a profile without registration. Even more, you can search for Tinder users by name from Google directly. So, you don't have to be logged into that site or any account with them.
Use a fake profile
If you want to find out if your husband is on any dating site for free, use Google search. Or create a fake account on these platforms and pretend to be looking for a typical match there. Next, try to be as close as possible to what the guy is looking for there. That includes matching with his age, location, interests, etc...
The main idea about creating a fake profile here is that you need to be anonymous. So, you don't give any hint that you're looking for a specific user on that dating platform. Just sign up as any user and upload fake photos and details. After that, start filtering the list of users' profiles as you're looking for a real match. Then you may get your husband's profile on that dating app easily. Once you're on his profile page, verify the details and make sure it's your man at 100% and not someone else.
The easiest dating sites to search for someone directly are Tinder, Ashley Madison, pof.com, and AdultFriendFinder. But don't forget Facebook dating. Its platform has millions of members in the US, and it's possible that lots of married men are there. So, try to use a second email address for account verification. Also, use another phone number that you don't use often. Or you may get a disposable cell number from online services to search for your spouse on the dating app.
If you think that your man is looking for a special dating adventure like the one with Tinder, create a test account there. Tinder is one of the most famous dating apps for married couples. So, most of them have spouses. You can also search Google for dating sites that your husband may be on, and you'll find so many of them.
Check his phone and laptop when possible
If you have permission to use his phone, at least, to verify things, this will help you. Look at traces of any dating app on your partner's smartphone, such as Zoosk, Tinder, or others. These app icons are clear on iPhones, for example. Thus, you just need to swipe right or left to find any of them. Also, remember that people can easily hide these apps with a tool or by tweaking the settings of their device and screen.
Now, if you found the occasion to use your husband's phone after asking for that, of course, you can check the browser history and app activities. In addition, to the apps installed on their phone, people can access dating sites from their web browsers. On an iPhone, for example, you can verify that by clicking the Safari icon. After that, click on the search history or the visited websites. If you notice any names of such sites, click on the link and see if you can access the account.Â
Signs that your husband is on dating sites
Sometimes, the search only can't uncover the truth at 100%. So, you may need to look at some signs that can tell you if your man is using a dating platform secretly. Now, here are the most common signs to look for.
Your husband gets emails from dating sites
If you notice that your husband is getting emails from dating sites, that could mean he's using that platform. These spam messages may look like ads from companies in the dating world or from users with photos there.
That being said, you can't affirm that because your man is receiving messages from these dating apps, he's using them, actually. These messages could be sent automatically by the site's system. Or there are occasions, in which, users steal contact details from dating accounts and sell them to other people.
Personally, I once used a dating site, and they bombarded my email with hundreds of emails from users I never talked to. That's because of the nature of these sites, it works like that by sending lots of spam emails to force the user to log in and become active on their platform.
He talks a lot about online dating
Have you noticed any change in his mind about online dating? Can you notice that the man is trying to convince you that dating someone online is a fun thing? If that's the case, then, it's probably because your spouse is a member of such sites, and he defends the use of them.
For that reason, you need to choose your words to see if he really used any of them. For example, try to talk about a website like Plenty Of Fish, Badoo, or Tinder and see how he reacts. Also, ask him, for example, if he used any of these sites or not and let the conversation go naturally. You may find hints that he actively logged into his account there.
The browser history is always clean
This may not look like a clear sign, but if your many is always clearing the browser cache and history, then, he's probably hiding something. That could be the use of dating platforms behind your back or something else. For that reason, you should link this method to the other options in this guide to tell the truth. The guy may clear the browser cache to speed up the laptop, for example. That's why you need to further investigate the usage of the laptop or phone.
To check your husband's activity on dating sites, try to disable the option of clearing the browser cache automatically. On the iPhone, for example, there is the option to turn on or off that option. Also, Google Chrome on desktop or on Android phones offers that option. So, try checking back again that search history in one day or two. You may find a list of dating sites that your husband accessed yesterday.
New email account or cell number
As we all know, dating sites require a unique email or mobile number for users to become members. But when the user has already used their old Gmail address on that platform, they'll need a new one for any new account. Also, your boyfriend may have a secret email you don't know about because he's using it only for dating sites.
Meanwhile, think about his phone number, and see if he hides one with a virtual number or through another hidden device in your home. Many guys have secret phones somewhere in the room or in the garage, for example, and they use that number to communicate with girls from dating sites or social apps.
💡 Expert Insight: Cross-Verifying Contact Details
If you suspect your partner has a secret email or phone number for dating apps, you must cross-verify the information. You can use reverse email lookup tools by typing in the new email to see if it's linked to any dating profile. Similarly, use his name in a people search to uncover any hidden mobile numbers.
My tip here is to verify if your partner has another phone number or email. You can do that by using the first method above and just typing his name in the search box, to see if there are hidden contact details you're unaware of.
He always checks dating websites
You can know if your husband is exploring dating sites by taking a look at his browser history. look for any repeatedly visited websites that are in the dating industry. If you see, for example, that the name of the site POF.com (Plenty Of Fish) is always present on his Chrome search history, then, he's using the site. Or he's checking other women's profiles on the dating site.
You catch him taking photos secretly
Men, as women, care about their appearance, especially when using dating and hookup sites. They can spend minutes trying to take that ideal photo to use later on the dating profile. It's like the one they use on Facebook or social media without sharing it publicly.
If you notice unusual behavior with your man taking pictures of himself, like selfies, why would he do that? Is it for his Facebook page or probably for a hidden dating profile? You can look at this and verify if he has updated any of his profile photos. If that's not the case, it's probably because he's sending these photos to other women on dating apps.
The man pays for dating site subscriptions
Finding that your husband is paying for a membership plan on dating sites is a clear sign he's using the platform. But how can you verify that first? Well, you can look at any invoice in his email inbox or in other places. You may see the name of the company that manages the dating site, and sometimes the names are different. So, check that and verify with Google who that company invoice belongs to.
Credit card bills that are unusual may also give some hints about online subscriptions. That could be a service that offers dating advice, membership, or other. Always monitor if you can access any billing history on PayPal or credit cards.
How to tell if your husband is active on a dating site?
Now, you possibly found some profiles of your husband on one or multiple dating apps. It's time to verify if he is indeed active there. As I always recommend, start with goodwill and suppose that your spouse is not active on that hookup app, but the profile is old from years ago.Â
That happened to one of my friends. In fact, her boyfriend created dozens of accounts on different dating apps, and then, forgot about them for years. After her marriage, my friend discovered one of her husband's dating profiles on POF.com because she was helping her sister set up her profile details there. So, she accidentally found a clear photo of her actual husband on a dating site with real photos and details of an old place he visited. So, she told him about that, and in fact, the man said he neglected those pages. It was an old profile on the site from 12 years ago, before she got married.
This example is proof that not every man who is on a dating site is a cheater. You need to see if that account is really active or not.
Account activity verification tips
Now, here are some tips on how you can verify if the husband is really active on any dating website:
Check his subscription: If someone has a premium plan on a website for online dating, that's a clear sign he's actively using it.
Recent photos: When you find that your man has a picture with newly purchased clothes, for example, that can tell you he's logged in often and uses the app. You may also have a look at his profile bio and details. You may see new hobbies, interests, or places you visited together.
🔥 Pro Tip: Test Account Messaging
This is the last method to make sure that your man is 100% using the site and active there. If you can create a free account, and send messages for free, that's a good thing. You can test that, as some dating platforms offer trials with limited messages or emails. If you come across a dating profile, and it looks like your husband or boyfriend is behind it, try to send him a message asking any questions and pretending to be someone else, of course. For similar techniques, see our guide on how to find out if someone has a Tinder profile.
Conclusion
These are the methods I personally tested and used to verify if my husband was on any dating site a couple of years ago. So, I verified them again, and they're up to date in searching for people's profiles on different apps like Tinder, and Facebook dating. But always try to be optimistic and not just think about cheating because he has a profile on these platforms.Â
As I said earlier, that old account you probably found could be used by a scammer, and he's not your partner. Or that might be old, dated years ago, and the man has no intention to remove it. In that case, it's time to ask him to delete that forgotten dating profile as you're married, and there is no reason to keep it there.Â
