Is your partner getting spam emails from dating sites? And you don’t know if he still uses these apps or if it’s just an ad? So, keep reading, and we’ll show you how to check everything.
Every year, a new dating site with a dedicated application for iPhone and Android is seeing the light. And with over 45 similar platforms that both men and women use, it’s not surprising to find emails from these dating sites in your husband’s email inbox.
So, like millions of users in the US and all over the world, spam can get into anyone’s Gmail or any other email provider account. But there are some reasons for that. In this guide, we’ll be talking about the possible reasons for a married man or anyone else engaged in a relationship to receive all sorts of adult messages or emails coming from dating websites like POF, Tinder, etc…
Why does a married man get spam emails from dating Apps?
When you find spam hookup emails in your man’s email or inbox, you should verify why he receives these texts. But you need a few minutes to check the details because there are different reasons for that.
1. Your husband is secretly using the site
On the one hand, once you have doubts that your husband is cheating, that won’t make things look as they are. And that’s because of many psychological effects. We are all human, and we can struggle with it. That’s our nature in the end. Once we have that feeling, everything the partner does will look like a hint of a secret affair when the truth is different.
On the other hand, your feelings can tell you in many ways if he still uses those dating sites secretly and keeps his profiles hidden. In fact, many guys prefer creating other profiles, like what happens with Instagram and TikTok, so that they can use them secretly.
Some dating sites send promotional offers to their users from time to time. So, if your spouse is still active a lot, he’ll get too many profiles as new suggestions. These ladies and girls match his profile, and the dating or hookup application wants to make him use the site again.
Also, these sites may try to possibly encourage your man to buy a membership plan or upgrade, or maybe post a reply to someone’s message on these sites.
How to tell if your spouse is active on dating sites?
You can’t tell for sure the truth and see if your husband has profiles on dating sites. But if these emails talk about interactions on the dating site with other girls, then he’s still using the site secretly. When someone is using a dating site and is still active on it, he can get emails like “the girl (name) has replied to your message; please check it and reply”. Or maybe, “your profile has been updated”.
These kinds of emails and ads on dating platforms tell you that the man is updating his details and logging on to the site. In other words, your man is probably using that dating site, and he’s active there. That’s why he gets these emails and notifications.
To verify if your man is really still active on these dating sites or not, take a few moments and try to check any of the emails he received. If that’s not possible, don’t worry, it’s just a step that’s not mandatory, but it can help.
- See what’s the name in the email content. Can you see your husband’s real name on that email?
- Is there any picture as a profile photo?
- Or maybe there is a username that the site is using as a unique ID for that user?
Now, if there is a username on that email, you can easily see if there is a dating account on other platforms or not. Sometimes, one username could hide multiple dating accounts on other sites and apps you never knew existed. Also, it’s a good idea to check if he has other cell numbers. Guys can use secondary contact numbers to get messages from the dating sites they are subscribed to.
2. He used dating sites in the past
If your man was registered on dating sites in the past before you met, probably the website is still using his email for marketing purposes. In fact, some popular dating websites, including Match.com, Plenty Of Fish, eHarmony, and Badoo, try to keep their users active. And by encouraging members to check out the best matches that the system found, they can make things better for them commercially.
If there is any dating profile associated with your husband’s name, tell him to contact the company behind it. That’s the best way to remove him from the marketing list and completely delete the account and stop receiving spam ads and emails from these dating networks. That can work; nevertheless, if the email has been shared in data breaches, it’s better to filter those spam messages as they’ll continue to get a lot of spam content.
On an iPhone, for example, you can open the best app you use to send emails. Then, look for “Settings” and apply the filter you want to stop getting emails from dating sites. Meanwhile, if that does not work and your spouse receives all sorts of spam from other dating networks, then, it’s better to report them as spam and contact the website behind them simply.
Your husband can tell them in a phrase or two that he’s not interested anymore in any dating services. That way, they should remove him from the list.
3. These are random spam emails
We don’t assume that everyone who gets emails from different dating sites is really an active user on these platforms. However, things might be different from one person to another one. If a boyfriend is flirting with other girls, then he’ll use a local dating site like Zoosk or Bumble that will send him new pictures and messages from girls. However, that can also happen for a married man, too, who has never used such sites.
Once you see adult emails in your spouse’s Gmail account, try opening any of them just to see what’s inside. If it’s a spam email, you’ll find it with a random name or even without any personalization. That’s the kind of telemarketing spam that Chinese companies and even others from Europe and the USA use.
Here is an example of a spam dating email:
In other cases, these emails contain bad pictures that no one wants to receive, especially in a serious relationship. Of course, these are not real girls that your husband knew or even talked to. But scammers (who may be guys or females) who want to attract men through these inappropriate photos, and guess what? They might find his email, like many others, on blogs, discussion forums, social media, or through hacking.
Does that mean he’s cheating?
In all these situations, your husband is not cheating, and he only gets these emails from fake dating sites that do not exist. So, be careful with these unknown sites. You should never even click on any of their links in emails.
Personally, I know many guys who receive hundreds of spam dating emails every month. And many of them tried to block every one of these messages without any luck.
These robots always find a way to use another fake email address to resend the same message. Or, they’ll modify the message automatically to the same list of contacts that keeps growing, which may be frustrating for many. That’s why I recommend neglecting them completely, as Google will delete the spam contact after 30 days or so.
4. Your husband has never used any dating app
This is the third possibility in which thousands of people find themselves in trouble dealing with such a huge number of spam emails from adult sites they never used or subscribed for.
Don’t be surprised to know that by typing your personal email into any of the services like Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, or other apps (even if that’s used for shopping or learning things), people can sell the database of names and emails to third parties companies. Consequently, that can be serious phishing and email scams, etc…
What’s even surprising is that so many companies get these emails from well-known sites like social media and blogs after a hack. That happens on the regular Internet or on the dark web when bad guys could sell someone’s contact details for a cost. Other companies and telemarketing agencies can bombard people with all types of annoying emails with offers, texts, and photos associated with dating content.
What to do if he keeps getting dating emails?
In reality, it does not matter if your spouse cares or not about the dating emails he gets from different sites. If these emails keep reaching his Gmail address or phone texts, that means something is not going right there.
In such a situation, you have to do your research using the above tips and ways. But even if your husband never used such sites, but you can see those adult emails, then, you need to talk to him directly.
It’s not that complicated to ask someone why he’s getting junk emails from dating sites. If these ads pop up on his phone, that’s because of an adware program. In this case, it’s better to scan his device for malware and even factory reset it if those ads keep showing up.
Now, the best way to stop email from dating sites is to unsubscribe from their newsletter. You can look for links like “unsubscribe” at the bottom of these messages. Then, click on the link that will remove your husband’s email from the site’s email marketing lists.
From the above details, you can see that once you find emails from dating sites in your husband’s email, you have to verify that first. It’s an important step before assuming he’s cheating or meeting with girls on your back.
In most cases, spammers could get into your spouse’s email address and send all types of spam messages day after another.
On the other hand, you have real dating sites that will do their best to keep users active even after deleting their accounts. So, always look for details like usernames or numbers mentioned in that email.
That can help you to uncover the truth. There are many lookup tools that search all the dating sites at the same time, like Google without registration. So they can find users by their name or details, which can also help in telling your other details about the person behind them.